Today I am sharing a devotional I wrote for a Bridal Shower. I have changed the names to Brad and Angelina to protect the people that I wrote it for. I hope you enjoy!
My husband and I have been married almost 10 years. My how time flies! Sometimes it is hard to remember my life without him in it, what an exciting journey you are about to begin.
I am honoured to share a few thoughts with everyone today. I am happy to be your bridesmaid and to be a part of your wedding day. I take my responsibility as a Bridesmaid very seriously. In weddings that my husband and I have participated in the past as well as a recent wedding that our girls were invited to participate in. We have told the Bride and Grooms that we are honoured to be invited as a part of their new family, and that we are there for them to keep them accountable, to be a shoulder if they need it, and to help them over the bumps. So Angelina please know that, that stands for you and Brad as well.
I have two words of advice that I received early in our marriage that I want to share with you. The first was shared at our wedding reception. I really didn’t understand what he meant at the time but I remembered it and it has come in handy several times throughout my marriage. He said, “You may not always like your spouse but you will always love them.”
I would like to take it a step further. And that is “You may not always like your spouse but you will always have to choose to love them.” Love is not something that you fall in and out of; it is a choice and a lot of work. You have chosen to marry Brad and spend the rest of your life with him. There may be days that you may wish you made a different choice. To be honest, I’ve had a few of those with my husband. But I am stubborn and I refuse to go against what I promised to my husband the day of our wedding. I hung our wedding vows on the wall outside of our bedroom as a reminder of what we promised to each other. We wrote these vows together and we are people of character; we will always honour what we promised to each other on our wedding day before God and our friends and family. That is an active choice.
The other word of advice can be hard to follow through sometimes but it is essential. Right after our marriage my husband and I joined a Bible Study that was on marriage. It was interesting because we were newlyweds and the group varied in length of marriage; I think the longest may have been 10 years. But the one thing that stood out to everyone throughout the video series was, “Never make fun of or put your spouse down, especially in a public setting.” Maybe you can add that to your wedding vows, and promise yourself to stand firm in it. You need to use words of encouragement and support.
I will post part two tomorrow!